Should i beg for my girlfriend back

Anyways, what if I told you that a man who begs for his ex girlfriend back is the equivalent of a gnat to her. I actually talk a lot about this idea in my book, The Texting Bible. Ok, first things first, for this little example to work I am banking on the fact that you have had experience with gnats in your own life before.

You want your ex girlfriend back after the breakup and you decide that the best way to go about accomplishing this goal is to beg for her back. Now, lets consider your ex girlfriends perspective based on these begging text messages that you sent. As a general rule, human beings love flattery and there is nothing more flattering than someone trying to beg for you back.

I want to tell you a funny story but in order for this story to make sense I need to give you some context. In fact, I have seen this happen first hand. However, when you are talking about something huge like who you are going to date then begging rarely works. I am sure there is some rare case that I am not thinking of where it would work but do I recommend it?

Now, lets pretend that you are a part of a caveman tribe and the most beautiful woman in the tribe just lost her husband who was the leader of the tribe. He was trampled by a dinosaur,. Tradition dictates that the leader of your tribe gets to marry this beautiful girl and since you are in love with this beautiful girl you want to try to win her heart.

Well, as weird as this is going to sound not much has really changed from caveman times when it comes to what women find attractive. Humans have become much more sophisticated and as a result of that sophistication what we find attractive in mates has slightly changed. Hmm… perhaps I should paint a picture to make this a little more clear since I think these things pop a lot when I add fun little pictures into the fray.

Well, in order to understand this we are going to have to turn to a concept that I teach a lot in my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO and on this site. Lets pretend that you have two men going after the same girl.

I believe Chris would recommend a 30 or 45 day No Contact for situations in which begging occurred, depending on other factors of how the relationship ended.

As Xander says in season 2 of Buffy the Vampire Slayer,. The more unattainable, the more attractive. This is true for your ex. When you plead with them, you are showing them that you are still available to them. Utilize this No Contact period by throwing all of your energy into making yourself a better person.

Not just for your ex, but for you. If they come back as a result, great. But ultimately, you are going to be better for it, and that is what matters. When I met up with my ex for the first time about a month ago, I was in total Ungettable Girl mode. I was confident, and definitely in control of the situation. I had him wrapped around my little finger.

He admitted he had been wrong about a lot in our relationship. We talked almost every day, with him initiating 18 times, and me initiating only 4. We met up twice and talked on the phone twice. We have plans to continue seeing each other this month. However, by embracing No Contact and striving to be an Ungettable Girl, you take the power back.

Your email address will not be published. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. First of all thanks for the great article! I just cant explain how to the point this sounds and how similar is to the cases of mine and other girls. I had a distance relationship that got colder gradually, so at the end I just got so mad of his behavior that broke up. Then I regretted and Begged him back so much, but he refuses and acts very indifferent.

Is there any chance to get all back? Hey Sheng, if you follow the program then you are going to be giving yourself your best chance of getting your ex back, but the most important part is that you work on yourself and your Holy Trinity. How about when I sent a long message after a day when he broke up with me and he set me a message telling that he really love me and he hopes to see me in the future when we are the better version of ourselves? What would that mean? He will eventually feel like he is missing out and contact you but you need to stay in emotional control at all times and not reply within 30 days.

This is going to sound stupid.. Should I go..? We broke up because I felt like he did not care and I gave him silent treatment for a couple of weeks. When I saw him in his apartment in a state of mess with his anxiety and depression alleviated because of exam stress it just broke me into two.

He did not let me clean up and he made me leave.. He said that it would not work. Except blocking me from all social media except messenger.

When I texted him telling him I was going to therapy and I was not okay, he said he would see me on Thursday but I told him Friday and soon after he blocked me again.. I feel so hurt and I want to call him again this Friday. Should I do that..? Will that initiate a positive response from him. Please help me.. My ex boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago. We lived together then the arguments started.

Does the scenario below sound familiar to you? I have to message him a hundred times before he replies just once. I just want things to be like what it used to be. But he is pulling away from me and ignoring my messages. Why is he behaving like a totally different person? Every time you call or text your ex, it just shows them you are needy and you are miserable without them. This neediness is unattractive and will only push your ex further away.

So whenever you go out drinking, have a friend with you who can stop you from doing this. You should contact them in certain way that will make them feel attracted to you again.

I explain exactly how to do this here. You might probably be thinking if you just agree to everything your ex wants, you will get back together. You agree to the most ridiculous demands your ex has. You think it is okay to become a doormat. Because having your ex back in your life is the only thing that matters. Agreeing to everything your ex says is not going to bring them back. And even if they do come back, they will leave shortly realizing they have no respect for you as a person.

Your instincts tell you that if your ex just realizes how much you love them and how much you care about them, they will come back. You just need to make them believe that no one in the world will ever love them the way you do.

How can they reject you once they realize how much you love them, Right? The truth is, they already know that you love them, how much you adore them and how much you care about them. But they still decided to breakup. Showering them with affection is not going to help you. And that will just make them want to get away from you as soon as possible.

It is much too common for people to drown in their sorrow with alcohol, drugs or anything of that nature. This is NOT the time to start being self-destructive.

You need to be in the best shape you can be right now. This means eating healthy, exercising, getting out of the house etc. Substance abuse is not only bad for your body; it will only make you feel worse in the long-run. Doing is more powerful than talking.

The best way to start changing yourself for the better is simply by doing small things for yourself everyday. You will see for yourself that I really have changed. I was still a respectful beggar. I was a standing beggar. The point of using humor is to get rid of the seriousness of the situation and make her feel attracted to your ability to make her laugh when she is being so closed off to you.

Women are naturally attracted to guys who can do that, so a small spark of attraction will be created between you and her at that moment. Then, from that point onwards, you need to continue re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you, by displaying some of the traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women e. You can make her feel attracted to you again based on how you talk to her, react to her and think, feel, behave and act. You are a more emotionally strong, emotionally mature and emotionally attractive man now and it would be a mistake for her to not give you another chance.

Should I ignore her too? Should I send her texts to remind her of the good times? Should I apologize in a letter or e-mail? One of the main reasons why a woman breaks up with a guy is because she has lost a lot of respect and attraction for him over time and he eventually becomes too much of a turn off for her to justify remaining in a relationship with him.