What makes guys miss their exes

I talked to countless people of various genders and sexual orientations about what I was observing. It turns out there's some science to back up my hard-earned and real life conclusions. A recent study found that while break-ups take a more immediate emotional toll on women, men often "never fully recover — they simply move on.

I consulted a few mental health and relationship experts to learn more. I was surprised to find that everyone I talked to not only concurred that men and women handle breakups differently, but that quite often in heterosexual relationships, at least the man has a more difficult time coping.

Men are more prone to being shocked. The greater the shock of the loss, the longer it takes to recover. When she ends the relationship, this rejection could hit his confidence and self-esteem hard.

Coleman has also found that often, men are less willing or able than women to take accountability for what went wrong in the relationship. Gary Brown , a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles.

Traditionally, society encourages women to talk about their relationships with one another, while men are often encouraged to 'man up. But why would men be less prepared than women? They bury them rather than work them out. This same thinking — that men should buck up — can also dissuade men from seeking counseling or therapy or even, simply, deep conversations with other men. All the time. The same sweatpants. I miss someone genuinely caring about how my day was.

I miss that little bit of excitement about driving home and opening the door and feeling like everything was good. Process every stage of your breakup: shock, denial, grief, sadness, insecurity, and anger while feeling supported and loved through your pain. Make this guided journal your trusted friend during your journey to feeling whole again.

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